in three parts.
(i am pretty sure i made this up. if someone else did before me, props.)
1. people want to understand themselves.
2. people want to be understood
2. people want to understand other people.
1. everyone wants to understand the little soul inside themselves, and they will go to ridiculous lengths to find it. other than searching for God, people want to search for themselves first. They don't see that in finding God you find yourself.
2. everyone wants to have someone "get" them. how do you rejoice about your friends? "they GET me, yo!" after discovering how complex you are inside yourself, you want other people to find that part of you too. when your friends or parents don't understand you (or mislabel or judge you) you feel insulted. why? they've turned away that piece of yourself, rejected it.
3. and everyone wants to be that person that "gets" someone.
thoughts?
Some of them want to use you, some of them want to be used by you. Some of them want to abuse you, some of them want to be abused.
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gee, you're in a mood.
ReplyDeletesome people i guess could screw it up. it's kind of a basic theory.
I'm not sure if people all want to understand themselves...it seems as if understanding ourselves can be eye-opening but also incredibly hopeless.
ReplyDeleteI think people are longing for something outside of themselves. Most basically, we are longing to be known and loved. Not just that we want people to understand what is important to us...if people really understand us, there's nothing there to love. We want our souls to be made bare, or even, our sins to be uncovered, and to still be loved, unconditionally and deeply.
(read this article, by the way! http://www.boundless.org/2005/articles/a0001230.cfm)
And about the third point...I agree, but I don't know why we want to "get" people. Perhaps God's image implanted in us makes us want to understand. Perhaps we selfishly want to be appreciated and needed. Idealistically, love is needed by both the lover and the beloved...the one who loves is giving support and devotion, and the beloved is giving confidence and appreciation. Good things to think about. :)